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What is the difference between Love and Attachment? Is there attachment always in love?
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Love is when you accept the other completely as they are. This happens when you completely accept yourself as you are. If you are at peace with your self then you accept the world as is and you love the person fully heartedly. Love is not a feeling. Its a state of being. You can't be in love with your girlfriend and kick a dog at the same time. And since its a state of being, you dont expect the same out of some one else. You're in love with 'X'. Period. There is no expectation of any kind.
Attachment is the echo of the ego/mind. Attachment gives u security - it might a person, or thing, or whatever. As soon as that leaves you or you lose it you'll feel insecure and you chase it. The ego needs security, affirmation to survive. If these are not there it feels threatened. It defends itself by clinging more. Ever wonder why ppl buy ridiculously over priced items they dont need? It gives them security that they 'belong' to something maybe the elite class or something. Same theory: U attach to a person so you feel good about urself - "I'm lovable too". Makes you secure for sometime. Then something is missing. You mind wants more. So you attach to more things. The cycle repeats
Love and Attachment are never the same. NEVER.
Peace
When you love a person, it becomes attachment. I understand that an attachment results in suffering, so sometimes I feel it's worthless to fall in love.
If you fear attachment, then don't love. If you love someone, you have to pay the price. Surely, love includes attachment too, whether we deny it or try to cover it with, "No, I'm not attached to him; I just love him." But this is also a kind of attachment; otherwise, why do you need to love him? You are attached to an object because you love that object. People can tell you to minimize your attachment to give each other more freedom and not to control each other, but just to love unconditionally and try to adjust to each other. That is love with minimized attachment, but not without attachment.
Anyhow, there are many kinds of love. Even the best kind of love in this world, which we say is between a mother and child, still has attachment. Who dares to take a mother's child away, harm or say something bad about her child even though she knows it is true? Her child is the best, better than all the neighbors', even though she knows it is not true. This is also attachment. She cannot leave her child; most can bear it, but not willingly.
Everything has attachment except when you love God. Then you love without attachment because there is nothing to be attached to. You don't gain what we gain materially as in this world. You just gain bliss, happiness and contentment. You cannot be attached to something when there is nothing there. The more you love God, the more relaxed and non-attached you become. But still you can love people in this world because your heart is large. A heart that is large can include anyone, even enemies; otherwise, it is difficult to love your enemy.
Attachment always needs an empirical object to be attached, where as love transcends empirical state.Attachment is the beginning of love but not the end.Negative attachment is also possible which creates hatred
Love creates attachment.
There is always attachment in love but not all attachments are love because it can be merely "getting used to the person" that if you broke up it won't affect you much .
We cannot say "always", but most of the times, there is 'attachment' with love.
What happens when there is an 'attachment' with the email that we send or receive. Are we not scared to open or download that attachment? Unless, ofcourse, it comes with the knowledge of the sender, and the sender does not intend any harm to our 'system'.
When love is pure, unconditional, without attachment (Sin-cera the origin-word for 'sincere' and the original meaning being 'without wax'--wax was an 'attachment' used to 'cover-up' flaws in marble statues sculptured in spain )..... when love is pure like this, it is hardly noticeable even(to us), though quite obvious all the time!
When there is attachment,
It can take a manifest form of emotion,
it can take different shapes and forms, and can be embellished into various adorable emotive forms tooo. Love for joy, love for happiness, love for caring others, love for sharing jokes, love for helping others, love for country--patriotism, love for reciprocation of kindness--pay back... etc.
It can also give rise to negative emotions! Yes! Please see, negative emotions cannot exist without love atleast in a small dose, but love can, in pure form! Love for life causes fear. Love for desired-resutls causes anger when somebody acts otherwise. Love for 'exclusiveness' causes jealousy. Love for 'exclusive-freedom' gives rise to hate.
Love is the attachment and attachment is the love.
love between YOU and the DIFFERENCE !
is the difference between love and attachment
mean to say the difference between the two difference is the real difference
love is when you like someone and have ur heart set on them.
attachment is when you obsess over someone and get clingy with them and never wanna let go.
Love is growing natural...............................i/e........made by GOD
Attachment has to grow..............................i/e........made by Human