I find this is natural since she's 13 turning 14 soon but is it really okay for her to keep doing this? I don't know much about this she seems to be quite healthy at 5'7 125lbs. Is there any thing I can do to help her out? I usually passed by her open door and saw her doing it and I'm actually shocked, I just walk away. I'll try my best if I can stop her, I'm not sure if her 15 year old boyfriend influenced her but he seems to be a nice guy to even teach her that.
Update:Yes, I'm giving her her own personal privacy, she can close the door if she wants to but I'm worried for her health.
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Hi,
This is a big transition period for all adolescent aged people. Parent plays an important role in moulding their child and their energy in the right direction. You have a greater responsibility. You need to be a good friend of your daughter. What so ever, Either it can be her school, relationship, or even some personal problems need to be shared with the parent. as a friend, this can not be created all of a sudden. This is possible once we start practising few techniques and getting in to their world to match their wave length. Never advice your kid in their teens.
Just get back to your own Teen age, recollect your thoughts from your mind, and feel how beautiful life looked to you, what is that you wanted. Try to be in that state of mid while speaking to her.
The very motive to do this exercise is to focus their potential and energy in to some thing more useful to this world. the thought power, potential, the guts of teen age is amazing, we can drive it correctly to build their future.
If they get adcited to unwanted things at this age, those are written strongly in their mind. Can take her to GO's engage her in the social works, this is the age where, teens need to understand and take up their social responsibilities.
She's doing it with the door open? Odd.
Leave her to it. If you have a rule that all doors must be open, it's time you relent and give the teenager her dignity of a closed door. Lift the rule without explaining why. Maybe when she does something good, tell her it's time she earned a more responsible age freedom such as privacy.
ps. Trust me... boy or girl, one needs no outside influence to discover what your body parts feel like.
Health? If you interrupt her, I worry for her mental health. Don't barge in on her. Later on a different subject, advise everyone in the house to keep their doors closed at all times. Use "fire safety" as an excuse if you have to. Or just say you don't want to see anymore people getting dressed.
Just ask her to keep her door closed as this is something that should be done in private. Please do not stop her as this is quite natural for any human of any age to do. Even babies in the womb have been known to do this. Chances are she learned all on her own. Masturbation is not always for pleasure either as some do it as a calming thing if they are a little upset or worried about something.
Edit: As for being worried about her health well this is one of the healthiest things she could do in her life, even doctors will tell you this.
Just leave her to it, it's completely normal and natural.
Maybe just randomly tell her that if she wants privacy then she should close the door.
Leave her alone. Don't discuss it with her, she might get mentally and psychologically affected by your any such attempt. Just ask her to keep her door close.
leave her its okay she must do it but its too soon to her to masturbate as she is just 13 its okay let her feel her happines tell her to close the door
i think you should let it be. i know you are worried for her health but its totally healthy for her to do that.
don't say anything that conversation will scar her for life