i am 25 , beautiful n very nice girl. before my marriage my husband used to pamper me , but now after 1 year he is too rude n rough.he never try to make me happy,though he doesn't do anything bad but he is just flat. no pampering or flattering things at all. its like as if i m not worth of it n this feeling is too bad. we live like an old married couple , though i try to make him feel special , n i am feeling very very unsatisfied
please give as many advices.
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To beckon more of husband's husband, a woman has to be looking innovatively different from time to time. Man has a short span of interest in anything and he soon get saturated in any damn matter in which once he must have had the mightiest interest. By and large, they are innately fickle. So to sustain his interest in you, you have to intermittently keep changing your overall look and conduct to suit to his changing moods. It is said, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. If you even make varieties of dishes, you will have a short cut to reach and remain in his heart. If you are a suspicious wife or always keep nagging him for something, please give it up at once. Because a man has very less tenacity to put up with the likes of stuff. Tired of all these, he keeps the wife at arm's length by the weapon of rudeness so wife herself keeps a distance being afraid of treated badly.
I would like to add one point if it relates here; just being merely a beautiful doll is not enough. You have to add the seduction quotient to your beauty. Between two equally beautiful woman, the one with seductiveness will have the edge over the another. So remember this and if need be, bring in some seductiveness to your beauty. It will enhance your beauty power and then you will find him always latched onto you. Another point, if you are passively involving in the sex game, then it leaves something to be desired more. Exude some passion in the sex game, it will shoot his arousal out of proportion and he will enjoy (and of course, you too) the game to the hilt. You can even try out different positions in sex to spice it up. Generally every couple do the sex in a missionary position. But when it become boringly routine, satisfaction quotient starts waning out of it. So be experimental and innovative in bed and have each night, a ecstatic voyage to heaven.
Have you talked to him about how you feel?
I'd try that, first. Don't be confrontational or accusing. Just say "I don't feel like I am as special to you as I was before we married. Has something changed?"
Open a dialogue with him. Find out if maybe he is just stressed-out and overworked, or if he feels like he doesn't have to do those nice things anymore since you are married. If it is the latter, I'd suggest maybe going to a couple's counseling session to talk it out with an impartial third party present.
Men are different; sometimes they just don't realize that women are sensitive and need reassurance. Maybe he just needs you to remind him.
Girl go out and get your hair and nails done and buy you a new outfit and tell him you are going out. Make sure you look and smell real nice. And just in case you actually do make it out, make sure you stop at
Victoria Secrets to get that new sexy lingerie that you will be needing sooner or later. A lot of times you must become unavailable and real cute and sexy to get more attention, and romance. Trust me I get dressed up, but I haven't made it to the club in almost three years, and he thinks he is the reason I no longer go out, but hey I'm after good sex, and fortunately, I don't have to leave home to find that. Go for it girl and let me know how things turn out!! Hottttttttt!!!!
Well just sit down and tell him how you feel. That you miss the days when we both did the little things for each other. Communication is the key. If you do and he cares then things should change.
Like so many others your husband has become accustomed to marriage. He no longer feels he has to please you because he already is married to you . In other words he takes you for granted. Talking may help but try not to be condescending when you talk to your spouse. It tends to put them on the offensive.
I would say to your husband look buddy if you don't start pampering me in some way i'm not putting out. Infact you got to hands use them! plain and simple the answer is self explanitory.
yes i would also suggest to talk coz talking is the medicine of almost everything
say how you feel and what you have been going through
Good luck
talk to him and also u need to b deserving of things he does for u n maybe over time u stopped appreciating him or reciprocating thats y he stopped....
surprise him with oral sex, that change anybody,,,I hope it does not offend you but I'm sure that will help