My mom found my diary in my room and read it. I have a bf that my mom didn't know about and I cussed a lot in it and I wrote about how I skipped class. My mom read it all and now every bit of privacy I had is gone. After she read it, she told me that she read it and needs to talk to me about it. I'm really mad because I don't think it was any of her business so I admit I do have an attitude about it. Every time we start to talk about it, she says I have an attitude and to come back when its gone. Why would I not have an attitud? I'm 15, my mom read my diary and I already know I'm going to get grounded! .... And she expects me to not have an attitude???? She would never know I have a bf and I skipped class if she wouldn't have read it, so if she doesn't like what she read, she shouldn't have read it!
So..... What should I do? Every time I try to talk to her, she says I have an attitude. And every time I tell her she shouldn't have read, she just says until I pay the bille every thing in her house is her business. Blah, blah, blah. I'm thinking about writing her a letter. How should I write the letter?
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Stop hiding things from her, and maybe she wont be tempted to read it.
She has the right to make sure you're protected. It's her job.
Always be honest with your mom, and she'll treat you and your things with respect.
I think you have every right to be upset. You obviously shouldn't be skipping class or hiding a boyfriend from your mom but that doesn't give her a right to read your diary. The only time a parent should read their kids diary is if it could be a life threatening situation. The whole bill thing is a bunch of bull crap. It's what parents use to make themselves feel ok about snooping through their kids things. It's really the mothers fault for not establishing a healthy talking relationship with her own daughter. I would try and loose the attitude but don't give in about the privacy thing. She had no right to read your diary. My advice to you is to have two diary's. Have a fake one that you keep in the open. Then you buy a secret diary with a lock and hide it somewhere your mom will never think of. You could even make up stuff in your fake diary just to make your mom mad. You might get in a little trouble but it would be worth it to make your mom sweat.
Writing a letter is a good idea. You can choose your words effectively.
She should have enough sense to expect you to have a bad attitude. The fact that she owns/rents the house and makes the rules does not give her the power to alter basic facts of human relations. The fact is that privacy violations will piss off most people.
But before you write a polite version of that, you should first write that you understand why your life is still her business (because you are not an adult and have not moved out). It works better if you acknowledge that you hear and understand what she is saying and thinking, because then she will become more receptive to your own point of view. She won't think you're stubbornly resisting, so she can stop forcing her point of view on you.
You should purchase a small fire-proof safe. They're fairly inexpensive. Lock your diary, expensive jewelry, birth certificate, passport, etc in there.
Well, you could get a padlock, and a secret hidey hole for your next diary. However, the other option is to wait until she speaks to you about it and own up to these things without an attitude - speak to her as a mature young adult, not an immature child with a chip on their shoulder.
She might actually be worried about you. She is surely to have been told by the school that you were skipping classes? They would have wanted to know not only where you were, but if you were safe, if you were in any kind of trouble, if there were family problems and so on, if you were doing drugs, staying out drinking etc etc etc. There might be good reasons for her to have looked.
You might as well take this opportunity to speak to her not as an equal necessarily, but as someone who is no longer a child, someone who is mature enough to not go around with a bad attitude when things don't go her way. (btw - you never are equals with your mother - I'm well into my 30s and my mother still thinks I'm a child lol)
You have now learned a very important lesson. Never put in writing, or record(on tape/disc/computer/etc) anything you intend to keep private. As a minor, living in your parents home you have no privacy, end of that subject. She never would have read it unless your behavior of late, left her with questions. So get over the attitude, and accept the responsibility of your actions. You have been going behind her back because "I just wanna" got the better of you. You skipped class, you wrote potty language, and have a boyfriend. Non of this she knew before your diary.
My mom used to read my diary too. She'd leave comments in the margins.
Either stop keeping a diary or hide it better. You might take it with you when you leave the house. Stick it in a purse or bag.
maybe she had reason to suspect that you were into something you shouldnt be, and apparently she was right. i would never read my daughters diary..unless i had reason to think it save her from herself for some reason. you should have learned ages ago not to put what you do down in writing where someone might find it. they must have taught that the day you skipped school.
This happened to me EXACTLY, i ran away to my boyfriends house for a month and taught my mom a lesson. She should have known not to read my diary.
PS im a boy.
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