We have been together for about a year and a half. and I love him so much. when we first got together he watched porn every day and he was honest about it. And I have never had a problem with it. Then as our relationship got more serious it really started to bother me. and he promised he would stop he even got rid of his whole porn collection witch was HUGE!!! and it made me fell so good about myself that he would do that for me. But then about 6 months into in I caught him watching it. again he promised he would stop. About a month ago he had admitted that he watches it every once and a while and said I don't need to any more your the most beautiful girl in th world to me I will never need it again and come to find out he watched porn on my computer last night he is just now getting to sleep. How do I deal with this. Do men really need porn or is it me? this has made me so insecure about my self I feel so ugly and its ruining our relationship.
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Should I be mad at my boyfriend watching porn and lieing about?
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I don't think you should be angry at him for watching porn. I don't agree with him lying to you, but it sounds like he lied because he wanted to avoid you being angry at him for doing it. Just because he likes watching porn doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or anything like that. It's just a guy thing. lol I'm sure he loves you very much to give up the porn collection....it isn't cheap, you know. :) Good luck!!
Yes you should be upset.... The fact that he lied to you should be a clue. When you get into a situation like that, your guard should be up and a flag should be showing. Him lying is deceptive behavior and is not going to stop at that. You should begin searching for another partner. The only thing that will happen from here on out is more lies and he will become better at covering up things he does not want you to find out about. If he watches porn, he is not ready to commit to ONE woman. So watch your back honey, your in for an emotional ride if you dont yield to what Im telling you. Good Luck to ya.
Getting even with him will just make him resent you. Don't you want your relationship to become stronger? Just tell him how you feel. Denying watching porn is not considered lying. You don't expect him to sit there and tell you yeah, I love to watch porn... especially if you're against it. Maybe you can try watching with him and if you hate it (like I do) just keep asking him not to. He may, then again he may not. It's no big deal.
Don't take it personally, I would imagine the only reason he lies about it is because you have a problem with it.
I love porn, I also have a girlfriend, we've been together nearly two years and I'm very happy, we have plenty of great sex but that's irrelevant.
Most guys spend a good chunk of their late puberty masturbating, it's a relaxing, enjoyable pass-time, porn too, helps to cultivate more sexual imagination, give us ideas, or simply show us something that maybe our partners wouldn't be comfortable with but nonetheless turns us on. To deny a man that takes away something that they've not only done for years, but that they enjoy, too.
I still watch porn, and to be honest I'd rather watch porn on my own, it's never been something I've wanted to share with others. Your boyfriend probably feels the same. The problem with a monogamous relationship is biologically, men are not designed that way, most need more than one output for their sexual energy, and to stop your man from enjoying porn and playing with himself would not benefit your relationship. Honestly this sounds to me like your problem, something you'll have to overcome yourself. Your own insecurity here is what's making you feel ugly, and your own insecurity about a perfectly normal male pass-time is going to put undue strain on your relationship.
Basically if you don't want your boyfriend to lie about his porn habits, don't make him feel guilty about enjoying a good ol' ****!
Also, don't take it to heart that he likes to play with himself, at least he's not running around behind your back shagging everything that moves!
You should view this as a healthy thing, instead of a shaming thing.
ALL men watch porn no matter how hot their women are. He is watching porn because as much as he loves you- I am sure. men need variety. If he's not cheating on you then he will look for alternatives like his porn watching habits.
I suggest you join him on watching porn with him. This move will make you both grow stronger as a couple, and make him think that he is the luckiest guy in the world- because his girl is into watching porn with him.
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Spice things up in the bedroom by dressing up, watch a porn with him. then re-acting the hot scenes
He might have an addiction to porn. I suggest he seek some help on this if that's the case. If not, then you have every right to be mad at him for lying about it. Try to talk to him about it, and be as honest as you can to him.
yes i would most definatly not like it if my boyfriend watched porn. i understand what you mean by its making you feel insecure. maybe you should try to tell him how insecure its making you feel and tell him your opinion on how the health of the relationship is, let him know that you feel its getting ruined.
and also you should definately be mad about lieing. if he's lieing to you about this, he's going to lie to you about other things.
hope things work out :/
hugs
I love watching porn and I have a beautiful girl friend. I don't watch it cause she is ugly I just watch it for fun & my extra needs. Sometimes she watches with me and we both get turned on and that leads to some great sex. It's like forplay.
Every guy watches porn, it's to feed their basic needs, you can't really stop em, just offer to watch it with him or tell him to chill down on the porn.
Sounds like he has an addiction. Tell him to choose you or his addiction. Not only that, but I would run a virus scan too.